The benefits of therapy and personal growth

Are we the authors of our lives?

What is meaningful?

How do we deal with suffering?

What is the source of my distress?

Are we the authors of our lives?

What is meaningful?

How do we deal with suffering?

What is the source of my distress?

All questions we might bring to the therapy room.

To be truly listened to by a compassionate and objective other can offer many benefits.

One goal of therapy is to create change - and a 'strong guide' is needed in a therapist, as well as a safe, trusting environment and relationship. As therapy deepens, so too can concerns about meaning in life and questions may appear. Questions are unavoidable in being human, as are periods of distress and suffering.  At times like this enlisting help from a Therapist to support us when we need a kind, non-judgemental person to be with us and encourage our growth – to find new possibilities, ways of being, behaving - and communicating; can be transformative.

Self-exploration can continue throughout life, including entering therapy at various stages of a person’s life can provide a positive context for development. The therapist and client relationship are a mirror for change - and can allow you to make new clear positive choices, outside of the therapy room. Therapy places an emphasis on your subjective experience, the importance of your feelings and emotions. Empathy is essential in this process,

'It means temporarily living in his/her life, moving about in it delicately without making judgements, sensing meanings...'

Carl Rogers

Therapy can explore where you have had limited your exposure to new experiences, or people, or growth. All of us hold fears and resistance. All of us need assistance at some time. A therapist can aid you to reveal and uncover your true self and allying it with a more positive self.

"Our need to be loved and accepted can impair our ability to be “congruent”
(Carl Rodgers.1961)

We often alter our behaviour to fit in or seek approval from others.

Often, as a child, or adult: we may become frustrated, needs for love and nurturing are not always met in our personal histories. Yet we grow and may receive feedback that warps our growth, or true potential or self-esteem. Our responses might become affected and prone to the needs and whims of others’ opinions, externalised ideas, or institutions. The evaluations of others begin to govern our private decisions and choices and affect our sense of self on mental, emotional and spiritual levels.

Where can we go to co-create ourselves?

Therapy can provide this place.

A human is a flowing, not a static, entity.

'...to accept oneself as a stream of becoming, not a finished product...
a person is a fluid process.'

Carl Rogers

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Rumi

Being with your feelings, however difficult, without judgement, in the presence of another is a powerful process. An attitude of mindfulness, openness, warmth, and compassion is held within the process - it may dismantle any of our defences to intimacy, as we uncover our needs.

Therapy may serve to change our attitudes and encourage us to become more 'fully human', The anxiety and fear we experience may begin to change and go.

Our deeply held negative beliefs dissipate, we become more courageous, kind, self-actualised and able to express who we are in the world. It is an investment in our lives and wellbeing and a valuable act of self-care. Welcome to your journey.

I hope you find a suitable therapist to assist you in your journey of self actualisation here.

Wendy Jane Hemmings-Quelch

'There is a river flowing very fast. It is so great and swift that some will be afraid, and try to hold onto the shore... But the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go, push off into the middle of the river. Keep our eyes open and our heads above the water. See who is in there with us... And celebrate...'

The Hopi Elders